This week, we talk about “Chastity Belt Ransomware: How Hackers Held People’s Genitals Hostage”. We also interview Jay with FancySteel and of course we answer your viewer questions.

This week in news:

You can walk your dog on a leash after curfew, but not your partner

A visual primer on which creatures can be walked on a leash after curfew in Quebec.

Interview with:

Countess Ylva (Fetlife Profile)

Countess Ylva has spent the last five years in the scene, most of it as a submissive. More recently she has come to see herself as a top and has been doing a lot of work around the topic of transferring her experience to the other side of the slash. She has participated in numerous demos and classes, particularly involving edge play and taboos. her interests and training include a biology degree with focuses in neuroscience and anatomy, basic psychology training, familiarity with meditative exercises and trance states, sharps, and various forms of behavioral control

Viewer Questions:

Kairi from Delaware – I am currently in a D/s relationship with someone. This person is my slave. Lately, I’ve wanted to sub to someone else. However, I am worried this might be an issue for my slave. He wouldn’t want to see me being submissive. How can I talk to him about this? I don’t want to end the relationship with him.

Jeff from Montana – I am relatively new to BDSM in general. As I am just starting off, what kinks should I focus on? Are there any that will make me more popular?

Kelsi in Texas – I just made the move from California to Texas. In California, I felt I was a part of the community. In Texas not so much. I attend virtual munches but it seems that people are set in their groups. already. How do I break into the community?

 

This week: Pornhub removing unverified content

Interview with documentary filmmaker Richard Schertzer https://www.imdb.com/name/nm8296449/

He is working on a BDSM documentary

User Questions:

1 Kyle from Connecticut – As I am sure everyone is having the same issues now, I figured I’d ask. Right now, pick up play is hard. Everyone is worried about getting the virus (and I can’t say that I blame them). What kinds of play can I learn that can be done safely in these times? Or, what can I do to make scenes as safe as they can be?
2 Kallie from Utah – I’ve always enjoyed going to BDSM events. Right now, our local clubhouse is closed due to the virus. I do own a house and would like to set up a dungeon. Any tips or places I can get things inexpensively?
3 Kendra from California – So, like many, I’ve lost my job. I was debating starting an OnlyFans. Do you have any experience with how to get started with this?

 

Sorry for the short episode, more to come.

News Article: BDSM Culture Can Make Women More Assertive In Work, Relationships
Link: https://theswaddle.com/bdsm-women-positive-effects-confidence/
Questions:
Janice from Iowa – Where I live, the scene isn’t very large. As a result, we are a tight-knit community. As a result, relationships form. I met someone. He was into kink as was I obviously. We had good chemistry and had some common kinks. However, as things sometimes happen, we broke up. Nothing serious, just some incompatibilities. Since the scene is small, however, we both see each other frequently. It is uncomfortable to see him and I often cannot play with him around. On the rare occasions that he misses a party, I have a blast, but if he shows up I usually have to leave. How can I get over him? I wish I could go to another event, but we are lucky to have one as it is.
Josh from Nevada – I’ve been an introvert and shy all my life. It has been really hard for me to form relationships. Something that I know though is that I love kink. My issue has always been approaching people for play. It’s utterly nerve-wracking. I want to talk to people but then I tense up and usually go home. How can I get through this and start to enjoy myself at events?
Sarah from Washington – I’ve been in a relationship for a while now. She and I are very much in love and I see this lasting a long time. However, she has a few kinks that I don’t have any interest in sharing. It seems only fair that I let her go indulge those with others. However, when she does this, I get incredibly jealous. I shouldn’t be because I’m not losing anything from her except her time. But there I am, jealous as heck. How do I get over this?

If you are looking for our older format episodes, check out the archives

Editor’s note: I am sorry about the echo in Rope Squirrel’s audio this week. We didn’t have the mic set right. This will be rectified in future shows. It was in a new place we hadn’t tried recording before.

Female Gamer
Female Gamer
News Article: Blizzard replaces Hearthstone card art with less violent and sexualized alternatives
Link: https://www.pcgamesn.com/hearthstone/censorship
Questions:
Jeff from Louisiana – Rope. It’s my bane. I hate it with a passion. To me, the rope isn’t the scene but it’s the start of the scene. I look on with awe when I see people who spend hours doing intricate rope work and then just take it all down. I guess I’m just missing that part of me. However, then when I am at a party, I feel self-conscious if my rope isn’t perfect. I honestly don’t have any desire to learn either because then I would be forcing myself to do something I don’t enjoy. Any advice for me?
Jessie from Arkansas – I am sure my problem isn’t unique, but sometimes it feels that way. I am in a poly relationship. We’ve structured it in such a way that I have my partners and some of those partners have their own partners. I am completely fine with this. However, one partner, whom I am not affiliated with but my partner is, is being, in my opinion, an ass. Let’s call her Sally. Whenever I leave the partner that she and I share with bruises, the next time I see Sally, she berates me about how abusive I am, and about how I am hurting her experience because my partner can’t do as much with Sally when she is injured. It is starting to get on my nerves because what my partner and I do is consensual. I am under no obligation to Sally to return my partner in any kind of working condition if that is what my partner wants. I just don’t know how to broach the topic with my partner. Any ideas?
Jullian from Georgia – I love my partner. However, he tends to go out of town a lot. The issue here is that when he does, he gets due to a thought he has in his head about me cheating on him and having orgies when he is gone. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Honestly, I usually just come home and relax and go to bed. On occasion, I do throw small get-togethers, but nothing sexual. True some of these people I’ve played with, that’s as far as it goes. However, whenever we speak, it’s a constant stream of mistrust, even though I’ve given him no reason to think this. How can I be a good partner and alleviate his fears?

If you are looking for our older format episodes, check out the archives