Countess Ylva has spent the last five years in the scene, most of it as a submissive. More recently she has come to see herself as a top and has been doing a lot of work around the topic of transferring her experience to the other side of the slash. She has participated in numerous demos and classes, particularly involving edge play and taboos. her interests and training include a biology degree with focuses in neuroscience and anatomy, basic psychology training, familiarity with meditative exercises and trance states, sharps, and various forms of behavioral control
Viewer Questions:
Kairi from Delaware – I am currently in a D/s relationship with someone. This person is my slave. Lately, I’ve wanted to sub to someone else. However, I am worried this might be an issue for my slave. He wouldn’t want to see me being submissive. How can I talk to him about this? I don’t want to end the relationship with him.
Jeff from Montana – I am relatively new to BDSM in general. As I am just starting off, what kinks should I focus on? Are there any that will make me more popular?
Kelsi in Texas – I just made the move from California to Texas. In California, I felt I was a part of the community. In Texas not so much. I attend virtual munches but it seems that people are set in their groups. already. How do I break into the community?
Kyle from Connecticut – As I am sure everyone is having the same issues now, I figured I’d ask. Right now, pick up play is hard. Everyone is worried about getting the virus (and I can’t say that I blame them). What kinds of play can I learn that can be done safely in these times? Or, what can I do to make scenes as safe as they can be?
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Kallie from Utah – I’ve always enjoyed going to BDSM events. Right now, our local clubhouse is closed due to the virus. I do own a house and would like to set up a dungeon. Any tips or places I can get things inexpensively?
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Kendra from California – So, like many, I’ve lost my job. I was debating starting an OnlyFans. Do you have any experience with how to get started with this?
How long have you been kinky? Where did you start? What are your biggest kinks? What are your favorite toys? What gear do you always have on you? Does cute gear make you play differently? How to get out of a bad headspace or deal with drop? What advice do you give to a new person?
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Product Review – Locked in Lust Chastity Cage
Ritzy
The Locked in Lust chastity cage is very well made and has very durable materials. It had several pieces and was like operating a puzzle. I had to practice with it a few times before putting it on someone, however, once I mastered it, putting it on again was no challenge whatsoever. The most unique part of it is the vice. It is something I haven’t seen on chastity devices in the past. The design of it makes it a breeze to install and makes escape very difficult. Trying to escape results in a lot of pain. The Locked in Lust cage also has a very low profile and quite hard to detect under clothes. Lock them up and leave let them go out into the world, confident that you hold his key and that there is no escape.
Additionally, and possibly most importantly for me, it is easy and fast to remove. When you are in the moment, nothing is worse than fumbling with locks, all the while getting frustrated. It comes off easily and is easy to keep clean due to the high-quality plastic. This is the best cage that I have experienced. Highly recommended.
Rope Squirrel
Overall, I rather like the cage itself. Being a chastity fiend myself, I’ve tried a LOT of cages over the years. Some I got simply for trying out on people (because you can’t make custom belts/cages for everyone as it would be expensive). So I buy cheap cages and belts to see if people like them before investing in something custom. This model is similar to other plastic cages, however it has a very key difference: the vice. While this doesn’t make the cage inescapable, it certainly disincentivizes you from trying. I did manage to put out of it albeit in considerable pain, and I still had the thing hanging from my balls. I am convinced that I could get out of it, but I am not sure that my junk would be usable for some time, and I certainly couldn’t get back into it.
Would I use this as my long term, unattended chastity device, either for myself or for others? Probably not. But in the context of the scene or a kinky weekend con, yes. I just know myself and I’m an escape artist. If you tell me I can’t do something, I always look for ways around it. For example, website blocks at work were smashed within a day. I am also not a huge fan of cages for unattended use as I can escape from them. However, if the person is supervised or nearby, I would use it as a first model.
Therefore, I recommend this model for anyone looking to get into chastity. It isn’t very expensive and has an assortment of sizes for both the ring and the vice itself.
Product information
We worked directly with the company. If you are interested in trying one, please visit https://lockedinlust.com/enter code KITC, that’s the abbreviation of Kink in the Chain, at checkout to get $20 off of a cage. This isn’t any kind of referral code, it is simply a discount code for you all. Full disclosure, we received a unit to review at no cost, but no copy approval was given. This means they are hearing this review at the same time as you are.