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News Article: BDSM Culture Can Make Women More Assertive In Work, Relationships
Link: https://theswaddle.com/bdsm-women-positive-effects-confidence/
Questions:
Janice from Iowa – Where I live, the scene isn’t very large. As a result, we are a tight-knit community. As a result, relationships form. I met someone. He was into kink as was I obviously. We had good chemistry and had some common kinks. However, as things sometimes happen, we broke up. Nothing serious, just some incompatibilities. Since the scene is small, however, we both see each other frequently. It is uncomfortable to see him and I often cannot play with him around. On the rare occasions that he misses a party, I have a blast, but if he shows up I usually have to leave. How can I get over him? I wish I could go to another event, but we are lucky to have one as it is.
Josh from Nevada – I’ve been an introvert and shy all my life. It has been really hard for me to form relationships. Something that I know though is that I love kink. My issue has always been approaching people for play. It’s utterly nerve-wracking. I want to talk to people but then I tense up and usually go home. How can I get through this and start to enjoy myself at events?
Sarah from Washington – I’ve been in a relationship for a while now. She and I are very much in love and I see this lasting a long time. However, she has a few kinks that I don’t have any interest in sharing. It seems only fair that I let her go indulge those with others. However, when she does this, I get incredibly jealous. I shouldn’t be because I’m not losing anything from her except her time. But there I am, jealous as heck. How do I get over this?

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Editor’s note: I am sorry about the echo in Rope Squirrel’s audio this week. We didn’t have the mic set right. This will be rectified in future shows. It was in a new place we hadn’t tried recording before.

Female Gamer
News Article: Blizzard replaces Hearthstone card art with less violent and sexualized alternatives
Link: https://www.pcgamesn.com/hearthstone/censorship
Questions:
Jeff from Louisiana – Rope. It’s my bane. I hate it with a passion. To me, the rope isn’t the scene but it’s the start of the scene. I look on with awe when I see people who spend hours doing intricate rope work and then just take it all down. I guess I’m just missing that part of me. However, then when I am at a party, I feel self-conscious if my rope isn’t perfect. I honestly don’t have any desire to learn either because then I would be forcing myself to do something I don’t enjoy. Any advice for me?
Jessie from Arkansas – I am sure my problem isn’t unique, but sometimes it feels that way. I am in a poly relationship. We’ve structured it in such a way that I have my partners and some of those partners have their own partners. I am completely fine with this. However, one partner, whom I am not affiliated with but my partner is, is being, in my opinion, an ass. Let’s call her Sally. Whenever I leave the partner that she and I share with bruises, the next time I see Sally, she berates me about how abusive I am, and about how I am hurting her experience because my partner can’t do as much with Sally when she is injured. It is starting to get on my nerves because what my partner and I do is consensual. I am under no obligation to Sally to return my partner in any kind of working condition if that is what my partner wants. I just don’t know how to broach the topic with my partner. Any ideas?
Jullian from Georgia – I love my partner. However, he tends to go out of town a lot. The issue here is that when he does, he gets due to a thought he has in his head about me cheating on him and having orgies when he is gone. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Honestly, I usually just come home and relax and go to bed. On occasion, I do throw small get-togethers, but nothing sexual. True some of these people I’ve played with, that’s as far as it goes. However, whenever we speak, it’s a constant stream of mistrust, even though I’ve given him no reason to think this. How can I be a good partner and alleviate his fears?

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